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The Miscarriage Project is Published!!

For those of you who’ve been following my writing and publishing journey, of The Miscarriage Project, I have exciting news!!

Finally Published!

After a three-and-a-half-year long journey, The Miscarriage Project is finally published and to purchase, as of yesterday!!

Behind the Cover

Here is the official Cover Reveal for my special blog readers:

Cover Reveal

It may seem a bit simplistic, but that is how I intended it to be. I didn’t want to trigger anyone who might read the book, with anything too sentimental or graphic.

Instead, the idea came to me of the three hearts, you see above.

Red & Black Hearts

The red heart signifies the life of the child, but also the love of the parents for the child. The black heart signifies the death of the child, as well as the grief, pain, and loss experienced by the parents.

Golden Heart

However, my favorite heart is the gold heart, which signifies the eternal life with Jesus that child has, as well as the hope parents can have in Jesus Christ, their ultimate Healer and Comforter.

I Have a Story…

Since God gave me this idea for the cover, rich with symbolism, an awesome coincidence happened.

While I was running an errand for a friend, in an office, I spotted something – and what do you suppose I saw?

You got it! Three hearts, colored with the exact three colors you see above! This decoration had an arrow through it, which looked quite exciting in my opinion.

Words of Wisdom

However, after consulting some trusted people in my life, I decided to not include the arrow, because it may give the wrong message.

I though it would be neat, because the Bible talks about children being like arrows in the quiver of a warrior, and I loved the symbolism there .

Even though we lost these children, their lives still matter and matter for God’s eternal kingdom.

Although, to others, it may represent their death and pain, and that was not what I wanted for my readers.

The Cause

My vision for this book is to help as many parents as possible!

Here’s how you can help:

Pray!

1 – First and foremost, you can pray. Pray for the book to reach the people who so desperately need it. Pray it is a comfort for them.

Purchase

2 – Purchase a book for yourself or a friend. This way, you can share this wonderful resource and pass the word, so the book can reach farther than we can imagine! Here is the current link to purchase the book:

https://www.westbowpress.com/en/bookstorehttps://www.westbowpress.com/en/bookstore

This will take you to the WestBow Press bookstore, and you can either search The Miscarriage Project, or look under New Releases to find it.

The Miscarriage Project is also available on Amazon, and in paperback, hardcover, and ebook formats.

Donate to Hospitals

3 – I am currently sponsoring a fundraiser, raising money to pay for these books. Once these are purchased with donations, they will then be donated to local hospitals!

To donate to the Books for Hospitals fundraiser, you can follow the Facebook link below to my fundraiser:

https://www.facebook.com/donate/951374825227793/

God is so amazing! He even worked out for a friend I met through B.S.F. (Bible Study Fellowship) last year, to contact me. It just so happens she works for our local hospital’s OB department, and is in charge of their bereavement services.

Thanks be to God!

Can I get an Amen to that?! I am so beyond blessed by God’s faithfulness and I pray our pain and sorrow can ease someone else’s.

Thank you for your prayers and support through this journey! I am so excited to see God’s impact with this book and how He will transform lives for the glory of His name.

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“The Miscarriage Project” Update!

I am proud to announce that The Miscarriage Project is in the second phase of publishing – design!!

As the author, I can’t express to you how excited I am to share this publishing journey with you, but even more to get this book into your hands!

The Book

Ten parents share their miscarriage grief journeys, describing their struggles with grief and the hope they found in God.

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Purpose

My goal in writing this book is to provide a resource for other parents experiencing the loss of a child.

Unfortunately, I am not alone in my grief. Too many women have lost children. Too many men have suffered alongside.

Today, you have a chance to make a difference!

Fundraiser for Hospitals

My goal with this fundraiser is to raise $5,000, in order to purchase, and then donate The Miscarriage Project books to local hospitals.

My hope is for the hospitals to give these to parents experiencing miscarriage, as a resource.

As they grieve, I want them to know they are not alone! 

Below is a link to a fundraiser I am running until the end of the month.

https://www.facebook.com/donate/951374825227793/?fundraiser_source=external_url

Are you ready to join The Miscarriage Project movement? Let’s go!

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

No one likes to admit it, but this month is significant for many reasons.

October

Personally, I am not a Halloween celebrator. However, I think it is fitting to remember the death of our children during such a dark time in our culture’s celebrations.

Officially, October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. In the UK, they devote an entire week, called Baby Loss Awareness Week.

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Parents

This month brings such a swirl of emotions. I miss my baby, but then I wouldn’t have on of my daughters.

I didn’t want to write about miscarriage, but that’s what God has called me to do.

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Too many women have lost children. Too many women haven’t had the chance.

Too many dads never knew their child. Too many dads lose the mom’s heart, because they are consumed by grief.

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Abortion

I don’t understand the logic that excuses women to take their child’s life.

However, I realize how disillusioned they have become. The weight of this guilt is not bore on the mother and father alone.

Unplanned Movie

On that subject, the movie Unplanned recently came out. I commend those involved in the production, for being bold and brave enough to shed the light of truth on this dark issue.

I have heard great things about this movie, but I have been cautioned by caring people, it would be too much for me.

Maybe someday, I will have the courage, and be at a place to stomach viewing it. Yet, I won’t watch it alone.

Miscarriage

Miscarriage was traumatic, to say the least.

Though I very much support the Pro-Life cause, witnessing the graphic deaths of other children could put me over the edge.

Does anyone else relate to what I’m saying?

Feeling Guilty

Initially, I remember feeling so guilty!

Guilty because I didn’t feel ready to have another baby. Guilty because I exercised too much. Guilty because I ate the wrong thing. Guilty because I took antibiotics, when I was sick, and didn’t yet know I was pregnant.

Moving Forward

In order to move on, we must throw off the baggage of guilt. We must fight to see the silver lining and not let Satan torture us with what ifs.

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Lean on Jesus to help you heal. You can be furiously angry, but God did not kill your baby. We live in a broken world, fully of death and disease, destruction and loss – He did not create it that way.

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Instead, choose to hope in a new tomorrow. Choose to move forward, holding your precious baby in your heart forever.

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My Mission of Love

My mission for this blog is to boldly proclaim the perfect love of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, through the lens of everyday life.

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“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ESV

This love is not simply a relationship love or a love between believers, this is GOD’S LOVE! We serve a personal God and we are to replicate His personal love to others, in every relationship.

There are so many, innumerable ways God pours out His unfathomable blessings of love on us, and we choose not to see them. Why, do you ask?

Our pride makes us think we can do life on our own power and strength, when really – our life, breath, and everything else ‘we possess,’ were given by God Himself.

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When we intentionally (and yes, I mean actually make time and effort) to consider what we are thankful for, our outlook on life gets so much brighter.

Try it – every night, think of 3 things you are thankful for, and text them to someone (of your choice), every night for 2 weeks.

Believe me, I have tried this myself, recently, and I didn’t want to stop! I even came up with up to 4 or 5 things, instead of 3, as the days went on.

In addition, I have become more grateful for the blessings God has already put in my life, instead of complaining about what I think I am still missing, to matter in this world.

MY WEEKLY CHALLENGE:

Focus on how much you matter to God, and His perfect love for you, instead of wasting your time chasing the fleeting whims of the world. Try it, you will be surprised. I dare you…!

In Christ’s Love,

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Peace, Joy, and Jesus

As a writer, I have been thinking of so much I could say. As a mom, I’ve been overwhelmed, and not sure how down deep and personal to be.

As A Citizen…

As most of you are well aware, this nation-wide, and pretty much world-wide quarantine is less than ideal. No one could have anticipated this happening in our world today.

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Our world has technology, several have access to medical care, and the ability to travel anywhere in the world in record time.

Why would a pandemic be a problem?

As a Christian, I truly believe God is using this time of uncertainty and chaos, to bring peace, hope, and strengthen our faith.

We are most secure when we dwell in the safety of our shelter and fortress, our Almighty God.

As A Mom…

For me and my family, this period of isolation has been both a blessing and a curse.

Right before this virus disrupted our lives, I had confessed to my husband a specific concern.

I was so worried we would be sucked into the busyness that comes with each spring season. Sports, drama, graduations, concerts, outdoor activities, and whatever else you can think of.

Blessing #1

However, because of the Corona virus and the mandatory quarantine, our schedules are wiped clean from last week, until the foreseeable future. I never imagined my prayer would be answered like this.

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Blessing #2

In addition, I have been struggling with maintaining my relationship with my school-age kids. For so long, I have been home with them, and having all the time in the world.

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Deep in my heart, I miss that so much, but God has not led me to homeschool at this time.

Now, I again have all the time in the world with all of my children, this side of Heaven.

I am thankful God has heard the desires of my heart, and is redeeming this time with my kids.

So I choose to see this time as a gift from God.

Curse #1

To be transparent, I am not going to sit here and pretend this time in our world is not scary, unsettling, and discouraging.

Yet, I never imagined it would be a grief trigger, for my son in Heaven.

For me, the mere suggestion or possibility I could lose any of my children, or my husband, took my breath away. This fear caught me dead in my tracks, and I wept with sorrow.

I have no more control now over life and death, than I did almost four years ago.

Defining Moment

Our pastor’s sermon this morning really challenged my heart. Storing up possessions doesn’t provide security, only God can do that for us. True peace can only come from the God of peace Himself.

I can’t stop our family from getting sick.

I can’t prevent my family from dying from the virus, let alone any other cause.

I can’t make toilet paper appear out of thin air, just because we ran out! (Yes, a little humor to lighten the mood.)

Resolution

God is God, not me. God is in charge, not me. God has everything under control, and I have nothing under control, in my own power and strength.

Everything we have is God’s, but He loves us so much, He gives us everything we need.

Yes, I said NEED not WANT really bad or WANT because someone else has it.

As a Christian, as a citizen, as a wife, as a mom, and as a writer, I urge you to take a stand in your heart and mind.

Choose peace. Choose to trust God will take care of you. Choose to find joy in the blessings of today, not live in fear of tomorrow.

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Choose Jesus Christ as your Savior, and you will never regret it, for eternity!

PRAY, PRAY, PRAY church! Don’t lose hope! We serve an all-powerful, mighty, loving God.

Encouraging Scriptures

Ephesians 3:14-21 ESV

“For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named,

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that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being,

so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith–that you, being rooted and grounded in love,

may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”

Hebrews 2:1 ESV

“Therefore we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it.”

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2 Chronicles 7:11-16 ESV

“Thus Solomon finished the house of the LORD and the king’s house. All that Solomon had planned to do in the house of the LORD and in his own house he successfully accomplished.

Then the LORD appeared to Solomon in the night and said to him: “I have heard your prayer and have chosen this place for myself as a house of sacrifice. When I shut up the heavens so that there is no rain, or command the locust to devour the land, or send pestilence among my people,

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if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways,

then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayer that is made in this place. For now I have chosen and consecrated this house that my name may be there forever. My eyes and my heart will be there for all time.”

Proverbs 3:5-12 ESV

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.

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Honor the LORD with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.

My son (to King Solomon from his dad, King David), do not despise the LORD’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.”

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The Society of Extraordinary Raccoon Society by Randall Goodgame

The Society of Extraordinary Raccoon Society by Randall Goodgame, is a great first book in a meaningful children’s book series.

Content

Goodgame presents a group of Christians as a raccoon society.

This is quite creative, because raccoons are known for their scavenger and thieving qualities, mirroring our human sin nature.

This first book’s focus is on generosity and sharing.

As a mom myself, I love this message, teaching my kids about sharing and the mutual blessings of showing generosity to others.

The illustrations are fun, clean, and colorful.

Recommendation

My kids and I highly recommend this book, and any in this serious.

About the Author

Randall Goodgame is a singer/songwriter and the creative force behind the family music brand Slugs & Bugs.

He has recorded eight solo albums and contributed to numerous others. He has written songs for VeggieTales, Caedmon’s Call, Andrew Peterson, Jason Gray, Jill Phillips, and Eric Peters.

Randall and his family call Nashville home, but he also began touring in 2010 to bring Slugs & Bugs to families nationwide.

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March 2020 – Updates and Exciting News!

To my regular readers and faithful audience, thank you so much for your prayers and support! It means more than you know!

Readers’ Favorite 5-Star Review!

Last month, I entered the Readers’ Favorite Book Reviews and Awards Contest. I won’t know until September about the awards part of the contest, but I did receive a 5-Star Review!

As an author, I am so excited to share this with you! It feels like a dream come true.

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If you are interested in purchasing an AUTHOR SIGNED copy of book, you may click the link below, from my online Store:

New Monthly Newsletter!

This month, I published my first monthly newsletter, entitled THE HAVEN NEWS.

This will include any events I have planned or attended, sneak peaks on my current projects, and insider info. about book releases, events, and so on.

This NEWSLETTER will be great for the many of you who’d like to keep up with me and my author journey. Please ADD your EMAIL ADDRESS below to be included into my AUTHOR EMAIL LIST:

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New Videos Coming Soon!

For those who’ve read my newsletter for March 2020 already know this. I am in the process of planning to begin a podcast or similar video series.

For the podcast, I am planning on talking about biblical, family, miscarriage, and life as we know it.

Stay tuned to the April 2020 Newsletter for more details!

In addition, I am hoping to integrate these VIDEOS on my blog. To be notified when I share a NEW post or video, please SUBSCRIBE below to my blog site, The Haven:

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Thank you!

THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS AND SUPPORT!! Your encouragement means so much to be and motivates me to keep going forward. God bless!

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“What’s So Wonderful About Webster?” by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick

What’s So Wonderful About Webster?, by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, is a children’s book with a powerful message.

Content

Webster, a fourth-grader, and his class have field day coming up. He is so nervous, because he doesn’t know what event or race he is good at.

Webster struggles with fear, insecurities, and jealousy of others’ abilities. he even tries to copy his classmates abilities, but he fails yet again.

It isn’t until Field Day arrives, that Webster finds his true ability and gift from God, and the power of his and his parents’ prayers.

Recommendation

This is a valuable lesson for any child, to know their value and worth in the eyes of our Creator God, and we don’t have to be someone else to be special or important. I highly recommend this well-written, well-illustrated masterpiece!

About the Authors

Alex Kendrick

Alex Kendrick has dedicated his life to following Jesus Christ and making His truth and love known among the nations.

After serving in church ministry for 20 years, he now writes, speaks and produces Christian films with his brothers, Stephen and Shannon.

Alex directed the movies Overcomer, War Room, Courageous, Fireproof, Facing the Giants, and Flywheel and cowrote the New York Times bestselling books The Love Dare, The Resolution for Men, and The Battle Plan for Prayer.

He has been interviewed by “Fox & Friends,” CNN, ABC World News Tonight, and serves on the boards of the Fatherhood CoMission and the Christian Film foundation. He and his wife, Christina, live in Albany, GA with their six children and are active members at Sherwood Church.

Stephen Kendrick

After serving in church ministry for 20 years, Stephen now writes, speaks and produces Christian films with his brothers, Alex and Shannon.

Stephen produced the movies Overcomer, War Room, Courageous, Fireproof, Facing the Giants, and Flywheel and co-wrote the New York Times bestselling books The Love Dare, The Resolution for Men, and The Battle Plan for Prayer.

He has been interviewed by “Fox & Friends,” CNN, ABC World News Tonight, and serves on the boards of the Fatherhood CoMission and the Christian Film foundation. He and his wife, Jill, live in Albany, Ga. with their six children and are active members at Sherwood Church.

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“Recovered” by Robby Gallaty

Recovered, by Robby Gallaty, is a captivating read, no doubt about it!

From class clown, to drug addict and dealer, to pastor, Robby’s story is sure to wow and inspire readers at the same time. Pastor David Platt, who wrote the forward for the book, is also part of Gallaty’s salvation story.

Content

Recovered is not only Gallaty’s testimony of how his life hit rock bottom, but his proclamation of God’s faithfulness, goodness, and grace.

I love how he incorporates what happened, and his reflections now, sharing how he can see God working, even in the darkest of moments.

Recommendation

I highly recommend this book for those readers who have family members struggling with drug addiction.

This book gives and insider perspective and could be useful.

Disclaimer: is very specific about Gallaty’s dealings as an addict, so use caution and discernment when sharing with an addict or past addict.

About the Author

Robby was radically saved out of a life of drug addiction on November 12, 2002.

Eight months later, a young seminary student named David Platt asked Robby to meet weekly for accountability, prayer, and Bible study.

For the next 2 years, David instilled a passion for missions, expository preaching, and disciple-making in Robby’s life.

After going back to school and earning his Masters of Divinity, Robby launched Replicate Ministries to equip local churches to make disciples who make disciple-makers. The Disciple’s Study Bible is the tool he’s designed to help do that.

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Resetting Expectations

A Birthday Party Story

Picture this. Your daughter has a birthday party coming up. Their 3rd birthday, and you want to make it as special as possible.

To prepare, you plan a month in advance for this birthday party. You even ask your birthday girl what she wants for the cupcakes and decorations. Things are going so well!

Shopping

Finally, it is time to shop and bake. You take your birthday girl to the store to buy decorations and party favors for her friends. Don’t forget the special, helium-inflated birthday balloons, matching the party theme.

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Your cart is so full, you wonder how over-the-top this party is getting. Your fears are confirmed, when the checkout lady literally says to you, “You are overdoing this, Mom.”

You know she’s right, but don’t want to admit it to a total stranger.

Party Favors and Cupcakes

The week of, you, the birthday girl, and her siblings, all work together to put the party favor bags together. The excitement on their faces is so inspiring, more for the candy than anything else, you know these are perfect for your guests.

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Two days before the party, you bake the cupcakes. The night before, you make the extra cupcake decorations, so they are ready for the morning of, when you freshly frost and decorate them.

You place them in the fridge, and you feel a sigh of relief and accomplishment.

Decorating

Last but not least, you stay up until midnight, with your tired husband, decorating. You start to pull out all of the decorations you purchased with the birthday girl, and your husband gives a sigh and intense eye-roll.

It takes hours to perfectly decorate with the party signage, party favors, streamers, balloons, even a large, plastic mural background for pictures and added scenery for effect.

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The Perfect Party

Finally, you’re done. Perfectly planned, purchased, and executed birthday party plan. You slip into bed, relieved, and happily anticipating the next morning.

You can’t wait to see the look on your birthday girl’s face when she beholds all your work for her party. You hope she feels as special as you know she is.

The Twist

Then it hits. The screaming, vomiting, and complete misery from – guess who? The birthday girl herself.

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The stomach flu or some similar, awful virus has hit your house, literally hours before the party is supposed to start.

You have to break it to your precious, birthday girl that her party is cancelled and now she has to spend her birthday sleeping and drinking water – no cupcakes.

Reality Stings Sometimes

As you might have guessed, this happened to me and my family last week for one of our daughter’s birthday. Let me tell you, it has been a rough week for all of us.

However, somehow God used this atrocious sickness to change something in my mind and heart.

As her mom, I was not only buying and doing things for her to make her feel special, but to show off to our guests, “Hey, look at me and what I can do? I’m such a great mom, aren’t I?”

My Aching Heart

Wow, that was a slap in the face and a prick in my heart. In my heart, I had let pride and the fear of insignificance drive me to spend more money, time, and energy than necessary.

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Also, I realized I was justifying my behavior with a false sense of what my daughter actually expected and wanted for her party.

I knew exactly what she wanted. We had planned it together, and the plan itself was pretty simple.

In my own prideful heart, I was making her party about me. How selfish is that?

The Real Party

Now, tonight is the night before her party. We have rescheduled it for tomorrow.

Most of the decorations we left up from decorating last week, but not all have stayed on the wall. The cupcakes are done and decorated, but I let my daughters help me, instead of pushing them away, and doing it alone.

For my daughter’s sake, and for my own good, I laid down my expectations of attention, glory and honor from my efforts as her mom. God is teaching me to be content in the simple, not frantic in the complex.

Finally, the party did not go according to my perfect little plan. To be honest, I’m glad it didn’t. I had more prepared and done last week, so I can just relax and enjoy my daughter growing up.

God’s plan is always better than my plan. If I am not careful, I will trade fear and anxiety for peace and joy in the Lord.

Which will you choose today, your finite plan or God’s perfect plan?

Scripture

These verses really helped change my expectations this week. I hope they help you, too.

Proverbs 3:5-12 ESV

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“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.

Honor the LORD with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.

My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.”

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Habit Reflections

I have been doing a study lately, called “Habits” by Life Church, on the YouVersion Bible app.

Habits Devotional

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Though it is a short, well written devotional, it is so convicting! A sword of the Spirit piercing right through my heart.

Yes, I did choose to read this on purpose, because I know I needed to hear truth about my habits from God’s Word.

Our habits don’t just happen – they are triggered by a desire or need we seek to meet.

Habit Loop

Today’s devotional talked about the habit loop: cue, routine, and reward.

For example, you sit down to watch TV at night (cue), grab a tasty snack (routine), and your body feels better from positive chemicals released in your body (reward).

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Ouch!! So convicting! This has been a constant struggle for me to break this habit.

Since our bodies store more fat from food we eat at night, and the food keeps me awake, I’ve been reminding myself of a different reward. Better sleep!

However, when I get the snack craving, mint gum works for me. It actually tricks my body into thinking I’m not hungry.

Also, sometimes you think you are hungry, you are really just tired or thirsty – same chemical in the body is so confusing sometimes!

Scriptures to Reflect

1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

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James 1:12-25 ESV

“Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him. Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one.

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But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers.

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.

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But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror.

For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.

But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing.

Ephesians 4:22-24 ESV

…to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

Psalms 26:2 NIV

Test me, LORD, and try me, examine my heart and my mind;

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Be Encouraged

Know you are not alone in having bad habits to break. Don’t be afraid to make the first step, just because you might mess up. Get back up, and try again. God is faithful to help you and give you a way out, to resist temptation.

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Remember, life isn’t just the here and now – with Jesus, it’s forever.

Helps put your life in perspective and ask yourself,

“Will this affect my eternity?

Will this still matter to me later in life?”

Be wise with the time you have in this life – don’t waste it.

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Habit of Disobedience vs. True Purpose

This may be an odd title for a post, but it is on my heart to share with you today.

How many times has God asked us to do something or tell someone something, we don’t follow through?

Lately, I have been feeling stuck. I have been praying and praying for direction, what to focus on in my life, but nothing clear.

Then I realized yesterday, it has been clear for a long time, but I was choosing to ignore God’s direction.

The Miscarriage Project

Most of you know of my recently published book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents of Who Found Hope in God.

Finally becoming a published author is a dream come true for me!

However, I didn’t expect the before, during, and after process to be so hard! To name a few challenges:

  • First, you have to write your manuscript. Short like a children’s book, or long like a novel, both take a lot of time to brainstorm, write, edit, rewrite, etc.
  • Next, finding a publisher willing to publish your work is the hardest part. This is something I had to do a lot of research to find.
  • The publishing process is such a waiting game and is necessary to have business and marketing knowledge (or know someone who does), I’ve had to learn most of this from scratch – research and asking others a lot of questions.
  • Once you are published (and beforehand), comes the marketing. This, for me, has been the most challenging part.

How do I help people find out about my book without breaking the bank? How do I convince them to then read it?

Asking the Wrong Questions

I will be the first to admit, it is so easy to get caught up in the ways of the world.

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Be this way, and people will love you.

Make this sacrifice, and it will be worth it. Your family will understand.

You have to work 24/7 to make any dent in your business.

You will never make it in this business, unless you take shortcuts, compromise relationships for progress, and think of yourself first.

None of these statements are true, but we believe them so easily.

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Instead of writing to make money or to sell books (to provide for my family), I am only effective if I use my gifts for God’s glory.

The world makes so many empty promises. Why do we continue to believe them?

True Purpose

Our true purpose of our existence is not to spend our lives afraid of insignificance, and striving for impossible perfection, according to the world’s ever-changing standards.

We have God-given purpose – to love God, to love others.

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The world leads us to believe we deserve whatever we want. As long as we work hard enough, we can do or be anything we want.

This is faulty logic, when God really created us for a specific purpose.

No matter how hard I want to be perfect, only Christ is perfect. Only through Him can we be sanctified – continually made more and more like Christ in his attributes.

The God-Shaped Hole

When I think of this concept, I think of these song lyrics, “there’s a God-shaped hole in all of us.”

There is always this lingering emptiness in our hearts. A desire to matter, to be whole, to find peace.

The world offers so many counterfeits to fill this whole, but only our true Lord and Savior, Messiah and friend, can fill it and truly complete us.

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We lost this fullness and unbroken connection with God when Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden. Ever since then, we have lived lives of brokenness, sin, and chaos.

However, our story doesn’t end there. Jesus Christ made this connection possible yet again with his death on the cross, and resurrection to the right hand of God the Father Almighty.

Hope in the Struggle

The amazing news: God doesn’t leave us alone in our pain and struggles. We have hope of a new, eternal future:

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” (Rev 21:4 NLT)

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Now that is the true “happily ever after” you’ve been waiting for.

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ONLY FOR THE LADIES: PMS

Yes, this post is just for the ladies, so if you’re not a lady, click out now. Thanks!

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PMS

Guess what time of the month it is? Not quite that, but the grr factor has begun.

You guessed it, the dreaded PMS – yes not everyone has this, but something changes in me every month, and it’s not roses and cupcakes I’m communicating, not by a long shot!

I don’t try to be crabby, or snap at people, but it seems to come out that way anyway. No matter how hard I try to be nice during this time, it seems to fail miserably, and ending with a stick of dynamite….KA-BOOM!!

Living Differently

So, as daughters of the King, as women of God, how do we combat this desire in us to do or say evil?

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Evil? Isn’t that a bit extreme? Not at all. Our sinful desires come from our sinful flesh, which is evil. Many times, we underestimate the roll our sinful flesh has on our thoughts, words, and physical wellbeing and actions.

Steps of Action

Here’s what I suggest:

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  1. Take a step back. Breathe, pray, and give yourself space. The more chaos around you, the more likely the explosion is to occur.
  2. Communicate clearly what you need. When you need space, especially during this time, communicate that. Not as the other person’s fault, but as your need.
  3. Limit making big or important decisions during this time. It is hard to think clearly, be patient, or be kind – and when working with others, you need all three.
  4. Rest and exercise. I feel like a hypocrite writing this, because I’ve been resting way more than exercising. The better your body feels, the better you will feel, and hopefully less angry or anxious.
  5. Last but not least, read your Bible. If you don’t have one, check out the YouVersion free Bible app website. Reading God’s Word gives me peace, relaxes me, and gives me hope things will be okay, because He’s got it taken care of.

Choose a step, and try it. Choose another, and try it. Find out what helps you the most.

Prayer

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From one Jesus sister to another, I hope this helps! Praying for you, too!

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Call to Action: Use Your Voice

My Voice

So I realized something today. I haven’t been using my voice.

I have been letting my insecurities and doubts and fears keep me from sharing my heart and letting my voice be heard; not letting my light shine, for the good of others.

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Anyone else struggle the same way? You have so much to say, but are too afraid to say it?

The Struggle

Just last night, I was monologuing to my husband (I do this a lot, but he is so gracious to let me verbally process). At some point in the conversation, I asked him,

“Will there ever be a time when we don’t struggle?

Why is life so full when we try to keep it simple and slow paced?

Why is life so hard?”

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The struggle is real. The struggle is constant. The struggle is exhausting. The struggle is depressing.

Steadfastness Develops

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. …

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Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.

(James 1:2-8, 12 ESV)

Scripture Reflection

Can I get an Amen on that one? This is my life right now! So much struggle, trial, testing and battering my faith from all sides.

Yet, I feel this inner strength I never had before.

Things that once shook me up or make me freak out, don’t get a rise out of me anymore. I’m able to show more grace, because I am more secure in the love and trustworthiness of God than I have been, for a long time.

Really?

You may be asking, really? Is that even possible? Yes it’s possible, but it takes time.

This is coming from a mama of five, miscarried one of them, and the other four are 5 yrs old and under. Trust me, the comments never end.

Again, this is coming from a woman who struggles with anxiety and depression after having said kids, but has probably struggled with it for much longer. I wish I could go back and tell me teenage self, “Don’t be so afraid to get help and admit you are struggling.”

People Need People

We are all human. This is not an excuse for our sin, it is the reason we sin, because we were born sinful, after the fall of man in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3).

One thing I’ve learned through all of this – everyone struggles with something (or many things). We need friends and family who can help and support us through these rough times. We can’t do it alone, no matter how many times we may try (ME!).

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Challenge:

Here’s your challenge: Share one struggle with someone you trust, someone who’s been there. It might be asking a lot of some of you, but we need people we can count on, especially Jesus.

But if you really don’t have anyone to talk to, God is always there, first and foremost. No excuses, be brave and use your voice!

You will be surprised how much weight will be lifted off your shoulders!

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Don’t let your fear keep you from freedom. Don’t let your voice be silenced – you have something important to say. That something could be the life changing something someone else needs to hear.

Let your voice be heard!