As the author of The Miscarriage Project, I’ve been thinking long and hard about October. October, for those of you who aren’t aware, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and October 15th is the remembrance day as well.
Even though it’s been almost four and a half years since my miscarriage, dwelling on the loss of a child still stings in my soul.
A Unique Kind of Grief
Losing a child is a unique kind of grief. Especially when you never got to meet that child. All of the what-if’s and shoulda, coulda, woulda’s of their life break over you like tidal waves.
A couple of friends of mine recently lost a baby. I can’t tell you how much hurt for them. Even though I’ve been through it, there is still part of me that doesn’t know what to say or do.
To be honest, I have been venturing back into our story, to dig up those raw, deeply hidden feelings. Following the miscarriage was a dark time for me, and I’ve been reminding myself where my friends are at, to help them find healing too. To process this unimaginable pain.
You’re Not Alone!
For those of you who are hurting, I am praying for you. You are not alone, and God isn’t punishing you. God did not create death. Instead, He is taking care of your baby until you meet again in Heaven. That may not always be comforting, but it might later on.
For those of you who know someone hurting, pray for them. Check on them, but also give them space. ‘I’m sorry for your loss’ and hugs worked great for me. Just being there and listening is enough.
My Story – The Miscarriage Project
If you are interested in learning more about my story, and those of nine others sharing their grief/loss journeys, I encourage you to check out my book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents who found hope in God.
If you order from this website, I’m running a 50% off promotion on the book right now. Also, if you order from my site, you receive a signed copy of the book shipped right to you.
In honor of our babies, and Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, I wanted every couple who desires a book to have one.
Prayers and blessings to you all!