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Habit of Disobedience vs. True Purpose

This may be an odd title for a post, but it is on my heart to share with you today.

How many times has God asked us to do something or tell someone something, we don’t follow through?

Lately, I have been feeling stuck. I have been praying and praying for direction, what to focus on in my life, but nothing clear.

Then I realized yesterday, it has been clear for a long time, but I was choosing to ignore God’s direction.

The Miscarriage Project

Most of you know of my recently published book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents of Who Found Hope in God.

Finally becoming a published author is a dream come true for me!

However, I didn’t expect the before, during, and after process to be so hard! To name a few challenges:

  • First, you have to write your manuscript. Short like a children’s book, or long like a novel, both take a lot of time to brainstorm, write, edit, rewrite, etc.
  • Next, finding a publisher willing to publish your work is the hardest part. This is something I had to do a lot of research to find.
  • The publishing process is such a waiting game and is necessary to have business and marketing knowledge (or know someone who does), I’ve had to learn most of this from scratch – research and asking others a lot of questions.
  • Once you are published (and beforehand), comes the marketing. This, for me, has been the most challenging part.

How do I help people find out about my book without breaking the bank? How do I convince them to then read it?

Asking the Wrong Questions

I will be the first to admit, it is so easy to get caught up in the ways of the world.

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Be this way, and people will love you.

Make this sacrifice, and it will be worth it. Your family will understand.

You have to work 24/7 to make any dent in your business.

You will never make it in this business, unless you take shortcuts, compromise relationships for progress, and think of yourself first.

None of these statements are true, but we believe them so easily.

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Instead of writing to make money or to sell books (to provide for my family), I am only effective if I use my gifts for God’s glory.

The world makes so many empty promises. Why do we continue to believe them?

True Purpose

Our true purpose of our existence is not to spend our lives afraid of insignificance, and striving for impossible perfection, according to the world’s ever-changing standards.

We have God-given purpose – to love God, to love others.

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The world leads us to believe we deserve whatever we want. As long as we work hard enough, we can do or be anything we want.

This is faulty logic, when God really created us for a specific purpose.

No matter how hard I want to be perfect, only Christ is perfect. Only through Him can we be sanctified – continually made more and more like Christ in his attributes.

The God-Shaped Hole

When I think of this concept, I think of these song lyrics, “there’s a God-shaped hole in all of us.”

There is always this lingering emptiness in our hearts. A desire to matter, to be whole, to find peace.

The world offers so many counterfeits to fill this whole, but only our true Lord and Savior, Messiah and friend, can fill it and truly complete us.

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We lost this fullness and unbroken connection with God when Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden. Ever since then, we have lived lives of brokenness, sin, and chaos.

However, our story doesn’t end there. Jesus Christ made this connection possible yet again with his death on the cross, and resurrection to the right hand of God the Father Almighty.

Hope in the Struggle

The amazing news: God doesn’t leave us alone in our pain and struggles. We have hope of a new, eternal future:

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” (Rev 21:4 NLT)

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Now that is the true “happily ever after” you’ve been waiting for.

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"Living in The Haven" Announcement!

Letter from Bold & Beautiful

Dear Devoted Readers,

I have been contemplating the new year, and what writing goals I’d like to set for myself.

Goal #1

As you already know, one of my goals is to publish two more books this year!

Goal #2

Secondly, I would like to start a regular blog schedule, called “Living in the Haven.” This means I’m committing to write weekly, to talk about what it looks like to live in the protection, peace, and love of God Almighty.

As my readers, I want to give you more. More to read, more post predictability, and more to share.

This year is a growth year, and I pray you’ll grow with me too.

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New Year, New Hope

Goodbye 2019!

I don’t know about you, but I am glad 2019 is over!

Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t been all bad, but has been a huge struggle for me.

This year, I published my first book (The Miscarriage Project), launched my new business brand, Bold and Beautiful. My husband graduated with his MA, and honestly, forgot this until I was reminded, because this year has been so full – the good, the bad, and the ugly!

This year I struggled. This has been the hardest year in terms of dealing with anxiety. I don’t know which is worse, the anxiety or the depression. Either your’e too sad and sluggish to get out of bed, or you’re too jittery and scared to go to bed. It’s a toss up.

Just within 2019, we lost so many people. In our church congregation, there were 12 funerals. I lost my one and only college roommate to cancer, and one of our college brother-floor guys committed suicide, both just before Thanksgiving. One grandma-in-law died in August, and the other, was admitted to the nursing home 2 days before Christmas. Not to mention all of the miscarriages, (of people I know), experienced this year.

This was a sad, sad year people. Tears well up in my eyes as think about the preceding paragraph. So much loss.

Hello 2020!

However, every new year brings a fresh new season of hope.

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In 2020, I hope to:

  1. Beat anxiety and depression, as I gradually go off my meds.
  2. Invest in my personal and spiritual health.
  3. Be more intentional making “breathing room” in my and my families lives and schedules.
  4. Publish 1-2 more books this year.
  5. Not avoid what God has me to do, but boldly charge ahead to fulfill the call.
  6. Fully grieve those I’ve lost.

For myself, I know I have so many goals and hopes for this new year, and probably by next December, I will have forgotten them. Although, if I press on, be consistent, and remind myself what I’m aiming for, then I will stay focused on the prize ahead.

God, please help me to have a more calm and peaceful year. Give me eyes to see those I am to help, and give me strength to say no to those things that will steal my time, joy, and family time. Sustain me every moment with your love, peace, comfort, and joy. Protect me as I follow you, and watch over my family. Give me the boldness to follow your calling for my life this year. In Jesus name, Amen.

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The Miscarriage Project is on tour!

For those of you who’ve been following my publishing journey, the book is out and we are having a party!

First, I will be holding the Book Release Party at Pressed Store + Studio in Spencer, IA. I am so blessed to be partnering with them.

There will be treats, giveaways, book signing, and special offers! Hope to see you there!

Second on the book tour, I will be doing an Author Talk at the Ericson Public Library in Boone, IA. At this event, I will be going more in detail about myself and how the book came to be published.

Even if you can’t make either of these two events, you can still order the book on Amazon, westbowpress.com, or right here on my blog site.

In addition, I looking for more speaking engagements and book signings, so if you are interested in having me come to your church or event, please contact me at boldandbeautifulblogger@gmail.com.

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“The Miscarriage Project” Update!

I am proud to announce that The Miscarriage Project is in the second phase of publishing – design!!

As the author, I can’t express to you how excited I am to share this publishing journey with you, but even more to get this book into your hands!

The Book

Ten parents share their miscarriage grief journeys, describing their struggles with grief and the hope they found in God.

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Purpose

My goal in writing this book is to provide a resource for other parents experiencing the loss of a child.

Unfortunately, I am not alone in my grief. Too many women have lost children. Too many men have suffered alongside.

Today, you have a chance to make a difference!

Fundraiser for Hospitals

My goal with this fundraiser is to raise $5,000, in order to purchase, and then donate The Miscarriage Project books to local hospitals.

My hope is for the hospitals to give these to parents experiencing miscarriage, as a resource.

As they grieve, I want them to know they are not alone! 

Below is a link to a fundraiser I am running until the end of the month.

https://www.facebook.com/donate/951374825227793/?fundraiser_source=external_url

Are you ready to join The Miscarriage Project movement? Let’s go!

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#TheHaven #TheMiscarriageProject

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

No one likes to admit it, but this month is significant for many reasons.

October

Personally, I am not a Halloween celebrator. However, I think it is fitting to remember the death of our children during such a dark time in our culture’s celebrations.

Officially, October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. In the UK, they devote an entire week, called Baby Loss Awareness Week.

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Parents

This month brings such a swirl of emotions. I miss my baby, but then I wouldn’t have on of my daughters.

I didn’t want to write about miscarriage, but that’s what God has called me to do.

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Too many women have lost children. Too many women haven’t had the chance.

Too many dads never knew their child. Too many dads lose the mom’s heart, because they are consumed by grief.

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Abortion

I don’t understand the logic that excuses women to take their child’s life.

However, I realize how disillusioned they have become. The weight of this guilt is not bore on the mother and father alone.

Unplanned Movie

On that subject, the movie Unplanned recently came out. I commend those involved in the production, for being bold and brave enough to shed the light of truth on this dark issue.

I have heard great things about this movie, but I have been cautioned by caring people, it would be too much for me.

Maybe someday, I will have the courage, and be at a place to stomach viewing it. Yet, I won’t watch it alone.

Miscarriage

Miscarriage was traumatic, to say the least.

Though I very much support the Pro-Life cause, witnessing the graphic deaths of other children could put me over the edge.

Does anyone else relate to what I’m saying?

Feeling Guilty

Initially, I remember feeling so guilty!

Guilty because I didn’t feel ready to have another baby. Guilty because I exercised too much. Guilty because I ate the wrong thing. Guilty because I took antibiotics, when I was sick, and didn’t yet know I was pregnant.

Moving Forward

In order to move on, we must throw off the baggage of guilt. We must fight to see the silver lining and not let Satan torture us with what ifs.

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Lean on Jesus to help you heal. You can be furiously angry, but God did not kill your baby. We live in a broken world, fully of death and disease, destruction and loss – He did not create it that way.

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Instead, choose to hope in a new tomorrow. Choose to move forward, holding your precious baby in your heart forever.

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A Love That Lasts

True love is not a whimsical feeling, a sexual desire, or a heart on a postcard. True love is so much more…

God gives us the secret to true love in His Word, the Holy Bible.

If more people really knew they could find this secret in the Bible, maybe more of them would actually read it.

The secret to true love is Jesus Christ.

His love is so strong, He died for us, so that we may be saved from God’s just wrath. We messed up, and Jesus came down, into our mess, and made us pure again – through His love, and His blood shed for us.

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You may think true love is a chick flick romance, a great first date, or someone who “gets you” (even though you just met), but no relationship has a chance unless both man and woman have a relationship with Jesus first. Only then will they know how to love like Jesus does – fully, sacrificially, and perfectly.

Now, that’s true love!

“And this is his commandment, that we believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one another, just as he has commanded us. Whoever keeps his commandments abides in God, and God in him. And by this we know that he abides in us, by the Spirit whom he has given us.”

1 John 3:23 ESV
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“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.”

1 John 4:7-12 ESV

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”

1 Peter 4:8 ESV
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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.”

John 3:16-18 ESV

More on this subject to come, but for what it’s worth, if you don’t know the true love of Jesus yet, just ask Him to show up in your life, to help you see Him for who He really is – our Savior and Lord.

Also, if you are in a relationship that doesn’t have Jesus in it – let it go.

Freedom in Christ is so much better than living in sin, trust me.

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The Effects of Depravity on Families

Have you ever wondered why some families seem to have it all together and why other families never can? No family is perfect, believe me, but some families have it much harder than others.

Today, I want to focus on a few biblical examples of dysfunctional families, as a result of one person’s depravity, that I came across in my reading of the Bible, recently.

I want to focus on two examples from the book of Genesis: Noah’s son, Ham, and Abraham’s son, Ishmael.

Beginning in Genesis 9:18-27, is the account describing Noah being disgraced by his son, Ham, and as a result, Noah curses him and his descendants.

Many of Ham’s descendants became enemies of the later formed nation of Israel, God’s chosen people.

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Genesis 10:6-20 lists Ham’s descendants, and from that list are some you may find familiar:

Egypt, Canaan, Cush (some of his sons); Cush’s son, Nimrod (a might warrior), founded Babylon (among others), Assyria, where he built Nineveh – the nation Jonah was sent to proclaim God’s judgment, and was destroyed 400 yrs. later, in the book of Nahum.

From other notable grandchildren/descendants, came the Philistines, the Hittites, Jebusites, Amorites, Girgashites, Hivites (among others); and “later the Canaanite clans scattered…”encompassing cities such as Sodom and Gomorrah, who were obliterated during the time of Abraham and Lot, his nephew, (Genesis 13-14).

If that wasn’t enough, the people of Babylon messed up, by building the Tower of Babel, and disobeying God’s commandment to spread out over the world and populate it.

At that point, God confused their languages and they were scattered around the world anyway (Genesis 11:1-9). So Ham’s sin not only ruined things for his family and the Israelites, but affected everyone worldwide.

If that isn’t scary, it should be. One person’s sin can have a global impact.

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Secondly, is the example of Abraham and his son, Ishmael. Now, this is after God has made a covenant with Abram (Abraham), and instead of waiting on God’s timing for a son, his wife Sarai (Sarah) steps in to fix the situation.

Sarai is so grieved and embarrassed she has not given Abram any kids, she convinces Abram to sleep with her servant, Hagar the Egyptian, so he can have the heir they thought God was talking about (Genesis 16).

They were so wrong!

This manipulative, impatient disobedience to God caused enmity between Hagar and Sarai, to the point Sarai mistreated her and Hagar ran away. God calls Hagar back, but once Sarah weans her promised son, Isaac, Sarah convinces Abraham to send Hagar and teenage Ishmael away.

This was hard for Abraham, to send his son away, but God promises to take care of him and turn him into a great nation, as well (Genesis 21:8-21).

What unnecessary pain this family experienced because of one bad decision! How naive we are about our sin in our own families.

No sin is little, it affects everyone in your family, whether you realize it or not.

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In addition, if you didn’t notice, Hagar was Egyptian, and so was Ishmael’s future wife (Genesis 16:3, 21:21) – so they were descendants of Ham, too! His sin was already affecting God’s people, even in Abraham’s own family (since Abram had been living in Canaan, the nations of Ham’s descendants, for ten years) (Genesis 16:3).

So what am I getting at, with all this biblical family drama? Sin matters and has huge impacts on families, mine included.

Ever gossiped about a family member?

Told a monstrous secret, you weren’t supposed to?

Not forgiven a family member for something they said or did?

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Don’t let your family carry the consequences of your and your family’s sins. Be the family that breaks the cycle – forgive, show unconditional love, show mercy and compassion, and don’t forget to pray for one another.

Only God can truly heal your family.

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My Mission of Love

My mission for this blog is to boldly proclaim the perfect love of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, through the lens of everyday life.

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“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ESV

This love is not simply a relationship love or a love between believers, this is GOD’S LOVE! We serve a personal God and we are to replicate His personal love to others, in every relationship.

There are so many, innumerable ways God pours out His unfathomable blessings of love on us, and we choose not to see them. Why, do you ask?

Our pride makes us think we can do life on our own power and strength, when really – our life, breath, and everything else ‘we possess,’ were given by God Himself.

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When we intentionally (and yes, I mean actually make time and effort) to consider what we are thankful for, our outlook on life gets so much brighter.

Try it – every night, think of 3 things you are thankful for, and text them to someone (of your choice), every night for 2 weeks.

Believe me, I have tried this myself, recently, and I didn’t want to stop! I even came up with up to 4 or 5 things, instead of 3, as the days went on.

In addition, I have become more grateful for the blessings God has already put in my life, instead of complaining about what I think I am still missing, to matter in this world.

MY WEEKLY CHALLENGE:

Focus on how much you matter to God, and His perfect love for you, instead of wasting your time chasing the fleeting whims of the world. Try it, you will be surprised. I dare you…!

In Christ’s Love,

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About Me

Hi, I’m Adrianne Babbitt, a.k.a. BOLD & Beautiful.

I am beautifully and wonderfully made;

I can overcome anything through Christ who strengthens me;

I am perfectly loved by the one and only true God;

I am uniquely designed by my God, my Creator, my Savior.​

I have five kids (four at home, and one with Jesus) and am married to the most amazing man of God ever!

I love to write as an author, musician, and love to spend time with my family outdoors.

I have a B.S. in Biblical Studies from Moody Bible Institute, and am about to publish my first book, The Miscarriage Project.

My hope is to inspire others to live BOLD for Christ (Beautiful-Overcomer-Loved-Designed).