Here is the link to my interview with Charlene Aaron on CBN!!! Praise God for the opportunity to help others!!
First of all, I don’t hate October, what it represents just hurts my heart. My dad has an October birthday, so I have to enjoy it a little bit, lol.
At the end of this month is Halloween, the holiday when evil, Satan, and godlessness is celebrated. As a Christian, I cannot support this holiday.
I do not understand the world’s fascination with death and destruction. Why do we celebrate it on Halloween, but then suffer the rest of the year, when someone dies? So much irony here.
Now that we have children in school, it is much harder to navigate how much to allow them to participate. For now, we’ve decided costumes and candy are okay, but are very clear in our explanation of the purpose and evil this holiday represents.
Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness
For the entire month, primarily October 15th, is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month.
For those of you who’ve experience this loss, I host a private support group on Facebook. I share my own story and struggles, prayers for recent losses, and share other organizations resources for you to view. Please let me know if you would like to be a part of this group.
Sharing My Heart
Even though I partly promote this month for my book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents Who Found Hope in God, miscarriage is very close to my heart.
On May 9th, 2016, my life was forever changed. It was the first time I even felt God had abandoned me for real and not answered my prayers. Not true, but that’s how I felt at the time.
My Heart Now
Now that I’m expecting for the sixth time, has not changed the fear, anxiety and worry for this baby’s life. Once you’ve miscarried or lost an infant, that naive attitude of everything will work out and be alright, dies too.
Please pray that myself, and all those parents out there suffering, would find peace, comfort, love, healing, and encouragement this month.
Though this month weighs heavy on me, for two reasons, let’s not waste the time we have. Reach out to those who are hurting, in any capacity, and show Christ’s love to them. Be there, because no one else might.
Prayers & Blessings,
Bold & Beautiful Inspirations Co.
As the author of The Miscarriage Project, I’ve been thinking long and hard about October. October, for those of you who aren’t aware, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and October 15th is the remembrance day as well.
Even though it’s been almost four and a half years since my miscarriage, dwelling on the loss of a child still stings in my soul.
A Unique Kind of Grief
Losing a child is a unique kind of grief. Especially when you never got to meet that child. All of the what-if’s and shoulda, coulda, woulda’s of their life break over you like tidal waves.
A couple of friends of mine recently lost a baby. I can’t tell you how much hurt for them. Even though I’ve been through it, there is still part of me that doesn’t know what to say or do.
To be honest, I have been venturing back into our story, to dig up those raw, deeply hidden feelings. Following the miscarriage was a dark time for me, and I’ve been reminding myself where my friends are at, to help them find healing too. To process this unimaginable pain.
You’re Not Alone!
For those of you who are hurting, I am praying for you. You are not alone, and God isn’t punishing you. God did not create death. Instead, He is taking care of your baby until you meet again in Heaven. That may not always be comforting, but it might later on.
For those of you who know someone hurting, pray for them. Check on them, but also give them space. ‘I’m sorry for your loss’ and hugs worked great for me. Just being there and listening is enough.
My Story – The Miscarriage Project
If you are interested in learning more about my story, and those of nine others sharing their grief/loss journeys, I encourage you to check out my book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents who found hope in God.
If you order from this website, I’m running a 50% off promotion on the book right now. Also, if you order from my site, you receive a signed copy of the book shipped right to you.
In honor of our babies, and Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, I wanted every couple who desires a book to have one.
Prayers and blessings to you all!
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As I’ve experienced a traumatic miscarriage, I hesitated. I convinced myself I couldn’t handle, avoiding it at all costs. But now I’ve watched it, and I’ll never be the same again.
To be honest, it wasn’t as bad as I had imagined, but I felt severely nauseous the entire time. I am so thankful for the woman, Abby, who was brave enough to share her story with the world.
No one should be badgered into keeping quiet about injustice. No one should be threatened for telling the truth. Abortion is murder, but abortion is also a deceitful lie that needs to be rebuked.
Abortion is NEVER the answer!! Putting a child up for adoption at least gives them a chance to live!
Keeping your baby will bless you in a way can’t even imagine right now. No financial hardships or multitude of diapers can compare with how much that child will love you, and how much you love them.
Having lost a baby myself, through miscarriage, the scene where the woman, Abby, loses her baby and tissue fell out in the bathroom, hit me hard.
That was me. After two days of cramping, spotting, and an ultrasound, the dreaded moment came anyway.
I woke up in a pool of blood, screamed, “No God, NO!!” over and over again. I ran to the bathroom and my precious baby fell out of me. I went into shock and shook on the bathroom floor.
My husband took me to the ER, but not before I told him he was not allowed to flush that toilet.
They let me cry and talk to a nurse, but basically gave me strong ibuprofen and sent me home. I lost a baby, and that was it.
The Filthiest Burial
I was thankful for the doctor telling me not to try to find my baby – too tiny to find. I think that would have been even more traumatic for me.
Instead, my precious baby boy was buried by a flush, and taken to the sewer system. This memory haunts me to this day.
This Has to Stop!
But to think someone would choose that on purpose, kills my heart every time. No one comes away from losing a baby the same. Either way the baby dies, the mother will never be the same.
Pray abortion clinics close for good. Pray abortions become illegal. But also pray for those who’ve aborted or contributed to abortions. God’s forgiveness is more than enough for them too.
Also, to read more on the subject, check out my previous blog post: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.
For those of you who are God-led and willing to do so, I have a BIG favor to ask of you.
This is not mandatory, nor is it demanded. This is not a whimsical request or an impersonal one.
This request has a purpose. This request will change lives.
A New Kind of Project
Many of you are already familiar with my book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents Who Found Hope in God.
Well, I am planning another book with similar format to this one, but not about miscarriage. This is about helping others through a different kind of tragedy.
Abuse comes in all kinds, but it is time to shine light into the darkness of our past. Healing cannot take place until we face the pain of our past head on.
My BIG Request
As a fellow victim of abuse, please hear my sincere request – to share your story, too.
As a victim, you never forget, but you are not alone in your suffering. My hope is to inspire others who’ve been abused to find true freedom from their pain.
That’s why I’m calling this book, The Freedom Project.
Again, I’m only asking those of you who are ready and willing to share your story of abuse. I am not asking those of you still deep in the suffering of your wounds.
For this project, I am asking for testimonials of abuse victims who’ve found peace and healing through faith in Jesus Christ. Also, for people who’s goal in sharing their story is to help others.
This is not to mudsling anyone responsible for abuse or use as an opportunity to play the blame game. All persons involved in sharing testimonies and all persons mentioned will be anonymous or names changed. This will ensure protection of privacy.
My Prayer for You
Finally, I am praying for all of you reading this. Whether you’ve been abused or not, we all have struggles. I pray you all find the freedom in Christ you’ve been yearning for.
You can email your story or any questions to: email@example.com
Galatians 6:2 NIV
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
John 8:31-32 NIV
“To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
Luke 6:27-36 NIV
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.
Do to others as you would have them do to you.
“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.
And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that.
And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.
But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”
To my regular readers and faithful audience, thank you so much for your prayers and support! It means more than you know!
Readers’ Favorite 5-Star Review!
Last month, I entered the Readers’ Favorite Book Reviews and Awards Contest. I won’t know until September about the awards part of the contest, but I did receive a 5-Star Review!
As an author, I am so excited to share this with you! It feels like a dream come true.
If you are interested in purchasing an AUTHOR SIGNED copy of book, you may click the link below, from my online Store:
New Monthly Newsletter!
This month, I published my first monthly newsletter, entitled THE HAVEN NEWS.
This will include any events I have planned or attended, sneak peaks on my current projects, and insider info. about book releases, events, and so on.
This NEWSLETTER will be great for the many of you who’d like to keep up with me and my author journey. Please ADD your EMAIL ADDRESS below to be included into my AUTHOR EMAIL LIST:
New Videos Coming Soon!
For those who’ve read my newsletter for March 2020 already know this. I am in the process of planning to begin a podcast or similar video series.
For the podcast, I am planning on talking about biblical, family, miscarriage, and life as we know it.
Stay tuned to the April 2020 Newsletter for more details!
In addition, I am hoping to integrate these VIDEOS on my blog. To be notified when I share a NEW post or video, please SUBSCRIBE below to my blog site, The Haven:
THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS AND SUPPORT!! Your encouragement means so much to be and motivates me to keep going forward. God bless!
Author of The Miscarriage Project, with 5-Star Review from
“Readers’ Favorite Book Reviews and Awards Contest“
Blogger at The Haven blog
Founder of Bold & Beautiful Inspirations Co.
This may be an odd title for a post, but it is on my heart to share with you today.
How many times has God asked us to do something or tell someone something, we don’t follow through?
Lately, I have been feeling stuck. I have been praying and praying for direction, what to focus on in my life, but nothing clear.
Then I realized yesterday, it has been clear for a long time, but I was choosing to ignore God’s direction.
The Miscarriage Project
Most of you know of my recently published book, The Miscarriage Project: Testimonials of Parents of Who Found Hope in God.
Finally becoming a published author is a dream come true for me!
However, I didn’t expect the before, during, and after process to be so hard! To name a few challenges:
- First, you have to write your manuscript. Short like a children’s book, or long like a novel, both take a lot of time to brainstorm, write, edit, rewrite, etc.
- Next, finding a publisher willing to publish your work is the hardest part. This is something I had to do a lot of research to find.
- The publishing process is such a waiting game and is necessary to have business and marketing knowledge (or know someone who does), I’ve had to learn most of this from scratch – research and asking others a lot of questions.
- Once you are published (and beforehand), comes the marketing. This, for me, has been the most challenging part.
How do I help people find out about my book without breaking the bank? How do I convince them to then read it?
Asking the Wrong Questions
I will be the first to admit, it is so easy to get caught up in the ways of the world.
Be this way, and people will love you.
Make this sacrifice, and it will be worth it. Your family will understand.
You have to work 24/7 to make any dent in your business.
You will never make it in this business, unless you take shortcuts, compromise relationships for progress, and think of yourself first.
None of these statements are true, but we believe them so easily.
Instead of writing to make money or to sell books (to provide for my family), I am only effective if I use my gifts for God’s glory.
The world makes so many empty promises. Why do we continue to believe them?
Our true purpose of our existence is not to spend our lives afraid of insignificance, and striving for impossible perfection, according to the world’s ever-changing standards.
We have God-given purpose – to love God, to love others.
The world leads us to believe we deserve whatever we want. As long as we work hard enough, we can do or be anything we want.
This is faulty logic, when God really created us for a specific purpose.
No matter how hard I want to be perfect, only Christ is perfect. Only through Him can we be sanctified – continually made more and more like Christ in his attributes.
The God-Shaped Hole
When I think of this concept, I think of these song lyrics, “there’s a God-shaped hole in all of us.”
There is always this lingering emptiness in our hearts. A desire to matter, to be whole, to find peace.
The world offers so many counterfeits to fill this whole, but only our true Lord and Savior, Messiah and friend, can fill it and truly complete us.
We lost this fullness and unbroken connection with God when Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden. Ever since then, we have lived lives of brokenness, sin, and chaos.
However, our story doesn’t end there. Jesus Christ made this connection possible yet again with his death on the cross, and resurrection to the right hand of God the Father Almighty.
Hope in the Struggle
The amazing news: God doesn’t leave us alone in our pain and struggles. We have hope of a new, eternal future:
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” (Rev 21:4 NLT)
Now that is the true “happily ever after” you’ve been waiting for.
I don’t know about you, but I am glad 2019 is over!
Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t been all bad, but has been a huge struggle for me.
This year, I published my first book (The Miscarriage Project), launched my new business brand, Bold and Beautiful. My husband graduated with his MA, and honestly, forgot this until I was reminded, because this year has been so full – the good, the bad, and the ugly!
This year I struggled. This has been the hardest year in terms of dealing with anxiety. I don’t know which is worse, the anxiety or the depression. Either your’e too sad and sluggish to get out of bed, or you’re too jittery and scared to go to bed. It’s a toss up.
Just within 2019, we lost so many people. In our church congregation, there were 12 funerals. I lost my one and only college roommate to cancer, and one of our college brother-floor guys committed suicide, both just before Thanksgiving. One grandma-in-law died in August, and the other, was admitted to the nursing home 2 days before Christmas. Not to mention all of the miscarriages, (of people I know), experienced this year.
This was a sad, sad year people. Tears well up in my eyes as think about the preceding paragraph. So much loss.
However, every new year brings a fresh new season of hope.
In 2020, I hope to:
- Beat anxiety and depression, as I gradually go off my meds.
- Invest in my personal and spiritual health.
- Be more intentional making “breathing room” in my and my families lives and schedules.
- Publish 1-2 more books this year.
- Not avoid what God has me to do, but boldly charge ahead to fulfill the call.
- Fully grieve those I’ve lost.
For myself, I know I have so many goals and hopes for this new year, and probably by next December, I will have forgotten them. Although, if I press on, be consistent, and remind myself what I’m aiming for, then I will stay focused on the prize ahead.
“God, please help me to have a more calm and peaceful year. Give me eyes to see those I am to help, and give me strength to say no to those things that will steal my time, joy, and family time. Sustain me every moment with your love, peace, comfort, and joy. Protect me as I follow you, and watch over my family. Give me the boldness to follow your calling for my life this year. In Jesus name, Amen.“